I recently launched my new business The Yorkshire Hypnobirthing School and I just wanted to share some background as to why I’m doing it. It’s something that I’ve been working on for a really long time and I’m so glad that I’m finally able to share it with you all.
For those who don’t know what hypnobirthing is, it’s about parents being the ones who make the decisions about their baby’s birth. It’s about feeling empowered, positive and confident regardless of the type of birth you have.
It’s not going against important medical advice, it’s not giving advice either. Hypnobirthing provides you with facts and tools in order for you to make informed decisions whilst using a toolbox of skills in order to feel calm and relaxed during pregnancy and birth of your baby.
Prior to becoming pregnant the anxieties that I felt towards anything medical were through the roof. I would take a day off work for a blood test and work myself up to it the entire time it was in the diary as I was just so nervous. I used to shake in the doctors surgery, sweaty palms and quick breaths before I went into the meet the doctor. When I went to the dentist, it was written in my notes how nervous I became and I used to have the nurse hold my hand for many years because I was so scared.
It was a bit of an ongoing joke within my family that I was going to have to toughen up if I was ever going to have a baby.
It was my sister who mentioned hypnobirthing to me originally. I knew that when I became pregnant I needed to do something about my anxieties. I had visions of being restrained during the whole birthing process. I had even worse visions but we don’t need to go into those. I knew that I needed to do something drastic to get myself to a place where I was more confident about giving birth. My overwhelming instinct to protect my baby was already taking over, she was my world and giving her a calm start in life was what she deserved.
Shortly after becoming pregnant I heard a birth story which literally sent me into a panic attack, everything about the story freaked me out in the worst possible way and my fear almost became irrational. I managed to stay composed throughout the night but as soon as we got in the car to go home I had a full on panic attack and begged my husband to protect me from what was going to happen when I gave birth. I was genuinely terrified and could barely keep it together. I decided to mention to my midwife the fears that I was having and from then on, I was asked how I was getting on at every appointment. It helped.
My husband Craig came with me to every single antenatal appointment bare one where my sister came with me for moral support, towards the end of my pregnancy I felt so much more confident through using my hypnobirthing techniques that I felt that I could go on my own. Me. Laura. The one who used to shake walking down the corridor to see the doctor.
I did a variety of different courses whilst pregnant, I read everything I could find, attended NCT, regularly went to the chiropractor and pregnancy massage, watched birthing videos, did pregnancy pilates.. you name it. I did it. Every tiny little bit of information about birth that I understood, my confidence grew. Hypnobirthing was more than the icing on the cake for me as I listened to hypnosis tracks in bed, used breathing techniques and visualisations to stay focused. I managed to have blood tests and stand up quite quickly afterwards. In the beginning, I would have to lie down for a good 30 minutes before I dared to get up.
I began to believe in myself and become excited about giving birth and it was because I now understood how my body worked and why certain things happen I was mentally prepared for what ever type of birth I ended up having. I was able to listen to other birth stories and take them on board without a slight flinch.
When my waters went at just over 35 weeks, there was no panic and I even managed to send Craig home to get rest when I was admitted for monitoring. Even as I write this, I can’t believe who I used to be and what I am now! I was transferred via a blue lighted ambulance and still, I was happy and calm. practicing my breathing and just going with the flow. Because I was in control.
I’ve written my full birth story in another post (My Unexpected Labour) so I won’t go into detail here but all I will say is that I was so proud of myself after Charlotte was born and it was all down to the fact that I had fully invested in hypnobirthing. I was delighted to become a mother but I’ll be honest, doing what I did was just a prouder moment for me.
During my pregnancy, the rapid changes that I felt within myself made me realise that hypnobirthing might be my calling. I’d always wanted to be able to work for myself but I never knew what I wanted to do and being pregnant showed me my path. During my maternity leave, I studied with KGHypnobirthing in order to become a hypnobirthing teacher and my new baby was born. I’m a proud birth geek and keen to learn and evolve as more and more people begin to shout about positive birth.
If you have any questions about hypnobirthing or anxiety in pregnancy do get it touch, helping people to have a positive pregnancy and birth is so important. It can be life changing! It is the self care that every parent should invest in for their birth of their baby.
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